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In recent years, much of the stigma surrounding bondage has disappeared, and many curious lovers are looking for new ways to enjoy sexual experiences with their partners.
Connections can be tender, sensual and romantic, as well as naughty and very exciting. The simplest restraint of a lover provides new physical experiences and strengthens the feeling of trust and closeness.
Binding can take many forms, from intricate, masterful Shibari masterpieces to simpler, but no less effective, forms of blindfolding and binding of the ankles and wrists.
Bring up a topic
Sure, surprises are fun, but not when it comes to bonding… For some people, bonding can be anxiety-provoking, so it’s important to talk to your significant other about your desires and boundaries first.
Discussing new ideas in the bedroom can be intimidating, so many people enjoy a little liquid courage before getting drunk and making suggestions. While this approach may work when it comes to other sexual adventures, we suggest avoiding alcohol when it comes to bonding, as the two don’t mix. When using restraints, you are responsible not only for your beau’s pleasure, but also for his safety.
Conversation starters
When talking to your partner, be sure to ask open-ended questions to find out their perspective and feelings regarding the first test of couple bonding:
I have a fantasy where one of us takes the lead during sex. What do you think?
How would you feel if we played blindfolded before bed?
How would you feel if we went to Lovehoney to look for some handcuffs and bedroom items?
Talking about these fantasies helps you communicate better as a couple, and can also expand your own thoughts on the subject, clarify your feelings, which allows them to empathize and even elaborate on your fantasy.
Be honest
If any of you are worried about the idea of including slavery in your sex life, you should not be afraid to say so and explain why. Consider your reasons and discuss them openly with your partner.
You may find that the discussion becomes interesting for you as well. However, like anything in a partnership, bondage is not for everyone.
“I bought the Bondage Boutique Temptation Soft Bondage Kit (2 pieces) as my first real purchase for dom and sub play! We were not disappointed. My partner saw I bought this and it turned him on before I even put it on!”
You shouldn’t feel bad if you’re not interested in tying up when your partner is, but equally, understand that your partner’s desires are legitimate.
The Right Tools for the Job
If you’ve decided you’d like to try bondage, it’s worth considering exactly what you’d like to try before investing in any bondage equipment to make sure your purchases meet your needs.
Do you want to enhance foreplay and sensory play?
Do you or your partner prefer who should be tied up, or do you want the binding to take place alternately?
Do you like being tied up, or do you want to be able to escape if you want?
You should ask and consider all of these questions before you buy.
The thrill of first-time experience
